The Solemn Vow

I have shared this with other Wise wives and thought it will be unjustly if I do not blog about it. The question that I am posing to every married person is this "Do you believe in the vows.. ?"Did, you believe in Love?" If you have answered "Yes", I am here to tell you this simple truth, fight for your marriage.. 

Do not give up.. Despite the wait..fight!!! Some it may take years, till you get your breakthrough, some days, some never. What you have to know and understand is that the higher the calling, the more the challenges/persecutions and we do not fight against flesh and blood.

GOD is reminding us of one of the greatest women of FAITH....Sarah, Her husband sleeping with another woman. That woman produced a Son named Ishmael. It's the result of what is taking place today. You must see in the spirit of faith that there could not be a Mary without Sarah.. Hear me, Christ came through the Father Abraham loins, the Father of Nations. So Sarah carried even a purpose for Christ... My point is this... If she was not faithful to endure.. Her name would have been forgotten today. God says your vows women and men are not forgotten.. Even if you are in the heat of the battle like the heat of the middle east.. Hold fast to your faith in your marriages.. Cause a Godly vow cannot be broken.. Thus saith the Lord.

The argument I got when posting this on facebook which was a fair and intelligent one, was "
Wasn't an agreement between Sarah and Abraham for him to sleep with another woman? Our spouses do it without our concern and then we should remember our vows and fight?

My response was simple:" Yes it is 100% true that it was an agreement but that didn't exempt Sarai to be hurt and tormented. Genesis 16:1" Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; ² so she said to Abram, “The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.”
Abram agreed to what Sarai said. ³ So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. ⁴ He slept with Hagar, and she conceived.
When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. ⁵ Then Sarai said to Abram, “You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my slave in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the Lord judge between you and me.”
⁶ “Your slave is in your hands,” Abram said. “Do with her whatever you think best.” Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her."

Sometimes as wives if we feel that we have failed, we allow our husbands to do whatever, then after they have done it, we are hurt. Yes we do not send our husbands cheating, as cheating is a choice not a mistake and quite frankly I do not want to know the reasons why a man ended up deciding to do it. But I have heard a woman say to his cheating husband,"since you love your girlfriend and spend more time with her than us, it is better you make her your second wife." Why are we settling for less? Is it because our faith in God is wavering? If a man hears that, he won't say no. We even do it with Inlaws, "Honey, I cannot compete with your mother, it is better you give her half of your salary every month. The bible says a man will leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife. If you can see that financially your husband cannot take care of his parents and siblings, why are you allowing it at the expense of your children cause now they won't get the best because now finances are split and your salary must look at everything.  We love abusing ourselves unnecessarily, that order is wrong,we always settle for less and God didn't create us to settle for less and we mistake it for submitting but that is a topic for another day. 

 One of the questions was "what does God say about divorce,cheating and forgiveness? I will deal with this topic separately even though it ties up, let's go back to the topic at hand "Vows".
^{Ecclesiastes 5:4} When you make a vow to God, do not delay to fulfill it. He has no pleasure in fools; fulfill your vow. ⁵ It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.The vows you and your husband took or made were before God, the pastor,family and friends were only there to be witnesses. The Word rebuke us in taking vows if we are not intending to fulfill them, this mean if you are not willing to honor your marriage vows, simple do not get married.No one is forcing you to take those vows and lately I have seen at most weddings, the pastors let the couple to write their own vows to avoid situations where one spouse will say, those were the pastor's words/vows not mine.

I do not preach what i do not practice. I always reach out to my vows, I have put them in my keepsake box for reference purposes. Every time my husband does something that shakes our union, I quickly pull out the box and take them out and read them. I do not make him read them, that should come from him to revisit his and I do not do it for him,I do it for me and it helps me cry to God using them as my prayer points.

Wise wife, I do not know what you are facing in your marriage and I do not know what is it that you promised God when you entered His Sacred Union(Marriage) but I am saying to you today, no matter how hard and unbearable your situation is, remember you took your vow before the Lord Almighty and I want to believe that you did so soberly and because you were confident that you will be able to honor it. Through the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit stay true to yourself and to your God for you made that solemn vow.

Stay blessed Woman of God

And this is my Solemn Vow