Beauty of a Woman

Being female does not guarantee a girl will grow up to be a lady.It is a process for a girl to become a woman and develop into a lady. 

A lady understands that her appearance, behavior, and way of communicating provide others with valuable insight into her character. She knows that her true beauty is not acquired at a make-up counter, with a new outfit, or by following the latest trend or by changing men. Rather, she understands true beauty is first inward (1 Peter 3:3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes). A lady understands that her real strength is not found in being with a man but rather, in being independent,educated, intelligent and self-assured.

Girls expose their naked/half naked bodies on social media but ladies/women know that even covered in clothes they are sizzling hot and sexy. Girls find their confidence when proposed by a lot of men not realizing that cheap prices attract lots of customers. Girls find joy in bringing down other females and destroying marriages.Some things comes with maturity and knowledge. Let us produce women that will bring glory to the Kingdom of God as we are Mothers of Nations.

Sex can not make you powerful and real(From a Man's perspective)

From a Man's perspective:

As a man, I can sleep with many

many married and unmarried

women and impregnant them all

but that will *NEVER* make me a

Powerful and Real man but one

of the most foolish men on earth.

Sleeping with many many

women will *NEVER* make me a

champion or superstar but a

destroyer or breaker of women's

hearts. I can only become

Powerful and Real, if I fear God

and give Him Glory and Obey Him.

When I do that, then I will stick to

one woman (who is my wife)

and respect the rest of the

women I meet in life. That's

being Powerful and Real as a

man.

As a woman, you can sleep with

many many married and

unmarried men and make them

cry for more but that will

*NEVER* make you a Powerful

and Real woman on earth but

one of the most foolish women

on earth. Being Powerful and

Real does not lie in sleeping with

different men. If you want to be

Wise, Powerful and Real, *fear

God and give Him *Glory and

*Obey Him. When you do that,

then you will stick to one man

(your husband) and respect the

rest of the men you meet in life.

That's being Powerful and Real

as a woman.

Powerful and Real men and

women Love God, Fear Him, Give

Him Glory and Obey Him.

Powerful and Real boys and girls

Love God, Fear Him, Give Him

Glory and Obey Him.

PEACE BE STILL AND GOD BLESS!

Food for the soul for single and married ladies

I got this message through facebook and i felt it is relevant to share on this site,so here we go and please take note if you already married you cannot change but you can pray that God intervenes and give you the husband worthy of You.

Are You The Right Man For Her?

Gen. 2:24

” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. "

Yesterday, we talked about different categories of wife in the marriage market but today we are looking the types of men available in the supermarket of marriage.

The Bible says ” a man shall leave his father and his mother to cleave to his wife " so here the Bible tells us that it is the man that is getting married to the woman not the other way around. Many men have lost their parents prematurely because of not understanding this simple fundamental of marriage,they put their parents first before their wives and God forcefully removes the barrier which is hindering the progress of that marriage to teach the husband what it means to cleave to his wife because by himself he can't. When you take the decision to marry,you are entering into God's sacred union&will live as per His guidance(the word).

There are also 4 categories of men in the supermarket of marriage; bad husband, satanic husband, good husband and Godly husband.

1. BAD HUSBAND:

- he doesn't care about the feelings of his wife.

- his wife is a slave to him

- helping his wife to do anything at home is an abomination.

- he barks at the children like a soldier at the parade ground

- he is quick to beat his children with slightest mistakes and also beat his wife.

- his children doesn't have access to his properties.

- he has a lot of concubines(girlfriends) like king Solomon

- he is an addict drunker n master womanizer

- he seduce all his wife's friends and sisters.

- he doesn't put money for food at home but expect the woman to cook.

- he dissociate the wife from all good friends and neighbours.

- he doesn't want his wife to dress well to be admired by other people but he runs after women who dress well outside.

- he is a commander and anyone who doesn't obey him get the beating of life.

- he listen to sermons but condemns the pastors

- once the wife give birth to a child, he doesn't take her out to cinema, restaurant or amusement park anymore. She has become old school to him.

- he doesn't identify his wife sexual needs and doesn't stay at home with her and children.

- he attends parties like Ankara and lace and love his friends more than his family.

- he prefer his mother's opinion than that of his wife.

- he suspect his wife's every move as if she is seeing another man.

- he set his own friend to try to seduce his wife to know if she is faithful.

- he hates his wife's family with perfect hatred and expects her to disown her family&love only his -he puts his mother and father first before his wife and children

2. SATANIC HUSBAND:

 - he is an agent of darkness.

- he came into her life for a purpose to destroy her.

- he married her with charm and use his evil power to collect all her properties

- he pretends to love her but he is only tearing her apart

- he abandons her when his purpose of destroying her destiny and future is accomplished.

-he stands in her way of her spiritual growth refusing her to attend prayer meetings&night prayers or even engage in prayers in the house.

-he permits her to praise the Lord in his presence saying she is making noise

3. GOOD HUSBAND:

- he sees the wife as a friend, sister and mother.

- he doesn't cheat but prefer his wife and cherishes her.

- he drinks but not too much and he likes to spend time with his wife and children.

- he make sure his family never lack but also plans for beer parlour in his income.

- he doesn't allow intruder into his marriage and guide his family jealously.

- he pays his children's school fees regularly and take care of his wife needs.

- he pleases his mother and his wife without preferential.

- he also take his wife and children out when he is on leave.

- he doesn't really get angry at his wife and correct his children with love.

- he loves his wife and respect her family.

4. GODLY HUSBAND:

 - he loves God and always pray for the progress of his family.

- he doesn't have any extra marital affairs(girlfriends).

- he train his children and wife in ways of the Lord.

- he loves talking about sermons.

- he takes responsibilities very serious and have a way of meeting up with them even in financial difficulties.

- he supports his wife with resources and prayers to achieve her destiny.

- he doesn't always find fault in her family but always encourage everyone to be at best.

- he is a fun man and the house is lively with him.

- he knows the importance of feelings and always attends to his wife sexual needs.

- he design a good prayer time for the family and he fast regularly to check the spiritual background of her family.

- God is his first priority and after that his wife and children.

The power in decision making

As I read the book of Daniel Chapter 1:1-12 i got to learn something about taking a decision and two key words were revealed to me and that is "decision and compromise". Daniel and his 3 friends understood that they had a choice to eat the ancestral food that the Royal house prepares for them or to stand their ground holding on to their Christian belief. The 4 then decided to rather eat something that the ground produces which is vegetables and drink water, in my understanding this was not cooked veggies but rather raw veggies and we all know that in the days of Daniel water was taken from the river or wells so it means they opted for nature than cooked food that will be presented to idols. As Children of God the minute we take a decision not to defile the word of God, then we allow God to take leadership in our lives and move in our favor, read verse 9.

As Africans we come from backgrounds where ancestral rituals are a norm and in other households are a must and as we grow and decide to follow Jesus we end up being caught in the middle and we end up compromising our walk with the Lord because we want to please our parents. We even quote the word "Children honor your Mother and Father."  The question we must ask is in this instance are we honoring our parents by compromising our God by engaging in rituals? What i am here to tell you is you can still honor your parents and fulfill the word yet not compromise God. What you need to do is go in your closet room and ask the Lord to take the lead in what you are asked to do, this is when you are not double-minded, this is when you have decided that you will not participate in ancestral activities and let His favor be on you so that when you address your parents you do not sound rude and arrogant.

We are in a era where Men of God compromise the gospel instead of preaching the living word they preach wealth and prosperity instead of saving souls they sugar coat the word of God because they are scared Christians will leave the church and they will lose out on tithes. The Gospel of God which is the gospel of truth has been compromised we need servants of God who will stand the ground just like Daniel and his friends and say whether I can preach to 3 people every Sunday it doesn't matter as long as i am preaching the Living word. We need Christians who will say i will not mix culture or traditional activities with my Christian belief,come Good Friday(passover) or Christmas we see Christians slaughtering goats and sacrificing to their gods and sundays they take the bible and go to the house of the Lord to worship.

We need Children of God who will stand against the oppression of Nebuchadnezzar and say we are not going to compromise our belief by engaging in idols/ancestors. Here the tone of Daniel in verse 12 when he spoke to the Official, he understood that as a Child of God everything is taken care off he doesn't need to be hostile,harsh or rude. God always fights for us if we stand firm and be grounded (read James 1:1-8), He raises the standards for us and qualifies us when we take the decision not to compromise Him.

Stay blessed

The Battle is the Lord's

Have you ever been confronted with a situation where you want to take full control and investigate and act harshly and as the anger dies done you hear a still voice saying this battle is not yours but mine to fight hands off and you keep digging saying i have all this under control, there are lots of information one can get out of today's technology,many ways to deal and confront situations but when you are a child of God the first place to seek for solution when calamities strike should be to God but anger which is a spirit from satan steals that focus away from us and we end up taking matters into our own hands.

I am also guilty of taking matters into my own hands when I'm angry, I will google all kinds of solutions or advises and apply them and when anger dies down then I start paying attention and that's when I hear the Lord saying my daughter that battle is not yours to fight but mine. And the sad thing is I already messed up with my little knowledge but God says its not too late to bring all your burdens and take His yoke for it is lighter. With all challenges our focus should be on God the Alpha and Omega of all things, remember that with all challenges God has already given you a solution but you will only know the solution if you seek Him and completely trust Him. Psalm 25:3 "those who trust in the Lord, He will never put them to shame."

My prayer should be Lord please with all the challenges in my life,change me first before you change my situation because like a mentioned earlier that I love taking things into my own hands and when I fail its when I remember oh there is God who can do the impossible, I need to find myself in a place where I always keep calm and say "this battle is not mine but the Lord's" and learn to wait patiently on Him for He answers all prayers.

To God be the glory,stay blessed

Marriage

I was invited to a marriage seminar on 21/02/2015 and was happy to attend as i felt i also needed a revival and to be reminded of the little details of marriage. I must admit i learned a lot of things especially coming from Christian Old Women who stood the test of times. I was however shocked to see my name as a guest speaker and weirdly the last on the list to speak and i panicked oh God please help me what will I say I am very young and still fresh/ rather new to the field of marriage but because I serve a Mighty God I found myself speaking. I opened the book of Ecclesiastes 4:12 "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken" Let's us all agree that marriage was created by God for enjoyment or for company the word says in Genesis God after giving Adam an activity to name all animals He (God) noticed that Adam was still lonely hence Eve was created. So Marriage is a sacred covenant that God has His best interest at heart so verse 12 of Ecclesiastes reminds every couple taking this step of uniting in Holy Matrimony to invite God to be the 3 cord of the strand because if He is there He strengthens the relationship. In addition to this we will look at John 2:1-3 And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there:² And both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage.

³ And when they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus saith unto him, They have no wine. 

This scripture reminds me of a sermon i received that was an eye-opener in every marriage no matter how old the union is there will come a time when the wine will be finished what is important as husband and wife is to know who to call when the wine is finished. If you understand that every thing that is created or manufactured should it give you factory fault and you find the manual that came with it no helpful there are always contact numbers written that you can call and take it back to the manufacturer just like marriage if you have invited God the Creator as the third strand to the cord you will know that when the wine is finished you will run boldly to Him and say Master the wine is finished and He will (read John 2:7 Jesus saith unto them, Fill the waterpots with water. And they filled them up to the brim.⁸ And he saith unto them, Draw out now, and bear unto the governor of the feast. And they bare it.⁹ When the ruler of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, and knew not whence it was: (but the servants which drew the water knew;) the governor of the feast called the bridegroom,

Only He can restore, only He can turn your pure water into a sweet wine that you will enjoy. If you go down to verse 11 of John 2 you will read that this was Jesus's first miracle to perform meaning that God values and honors this covenant of Marriage and loves it so dearly that He gave us solution for it, Spouses shouldn't try to change one another only God can change one's character, only God can bring sweet wine into any marriage and remove the bitter wine but only if you know who is the creator of marriages and when the going gets tough who to run to and most importantly what to say. Divorce was created by the devil and should you have problems and the first thing that comes to mind is where to find the best divorce lawyer you are lost and conforming to the standards of this world. There is nothing too difficult for God even that head of the house you have in your home that is a headache only God can change him, call on Him. He is always available, He wouldn't have use a strong word as HATE when it comes to divorce if He didn't love and care for our marriages but we always want an easy way out. I was reminded when i was listening to another sermon that most women and men of God have spouse challenges not that you married the wrong man or woman but because to get to you satan has to utilize the one you love dearly, bearing in mind that we wrestle not against flesh and blood, your spouse is not a demon but he/she is used to destroy the ministry God has for you because there are many powerful men and women of God that their power can be even greater should their spouse join them but cause the devil is aware that such a power couple can cripple the kingdom of darkness he lures one partner away. Stand firm and do not stop interceding for your marriage, i only know what is tormenting me i do not know yours maybe it looks impossible to restore with the naked eye but God says TRY me the creator or founder of marriages.

STAY BLESSED!!!!

Pride

Today i want us to look at another small word with just 5 letters but the results can be costly "PRIDE". We  read that Satan was cast out of heaven because of PRIDE. Just a quick recap so that you understand what I am talking about.Satan fell because of pride. He desired to be God, not to be a servant of God. Notice the many “I will...” statements in Isaiah 14:12-15. Ezekiel 28:12-15 describes Satan as an exceedingly beautiful angel. Satan was likely the highest of all angels, the most beautiful of all of God's creations, but he was not content in his position. Instead, Satan desired to be God, to essentially “kick God off His throne” and take over the rule of the universe. Satan wanted to be God, and interestingly enough, that is what Satan tempted Adam and Eve with in the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3:1-5). How did Satan fall from heaven? Actually, a fall is not an accurate description. It would be far more accurate to say God cast Satan out of heaven (Isaiah 14:15; Ezekiel 28:16-17). Satan did not fall from heaven; rather, Satan was pushed out of heaven.

 

Now that we have a background of what happened to satan who had the spirit called pride,lets look at what the scripture say in Proverbs 8:13. Pride is a demonic spirit as God through the Holy Spirit gives us the spirit of meekness (humbleness) because it is a spirit we must ask God to fill us with His spirit of humbleness we shouldn't be comfortable with the spirit of pride because it robs us of our inheritances of blessings. If you have noticed people with pride they are evil cause they have the spirit of competing (jealousy)with other people because good things should only belong to them.The kind of pride that stems from self-righteousness is sin and God hates it because it is a hindrance to seeking Him. Psalm 10:4 explains that the proud are so consumed with themselves that their thoughts are far from God: in his pride the wicked does not seek him, in all his thoughts there is no room for God. This kind of haughty pride is the opposite of the spirit of humility that God seeks. The proud are so blinded by the pride that they think they have no need for God or worse that God should accept them, as they are because they deserve His acceptance. The consequences of pride Proverbs 16:18-19, Isaiah 14:12-15 and Isaiah 14:22. Pride is sinful because pride is giving ourselves the credit for something that God has accomplished. Pride is taking the glory that belongs to God alone and keeping it for ourselves. Pride is essentially self-worship. Anything we accomplish in this world would not have been possible were it not for God enabling and sustaining us. Only God deserves the glory no one else and we should remember that we were created to glorify Him and exalt His Name.

Comfort Zone

John 5:1-8

The invalid in Bethesda was lying in his mat for 38 years old; I can assume that no one was changing this mat every day, week, month or years so it could have been a dirty mat. When Jesus instructed him to get up he immediately added "pick up your mat and walk"; Jesus could have just healed him but He(Jesus) understood the power of doubt we Christians have, the fear of the unknown we have; basically this mat is all this man knew for 38 years so if he had left the mat by the pool side wouldn’t he come back for it?, surely so he would have as we are scared to leave our comfort zone. We as Christians have different comfort zones that is contaminating our lives I won’t know yours but definitely I know mine and as we have come to Jesus He is saying today “Get up; pick up your mat and walk” leave that comfort zone, press forward and never look back so that you grow spiritually. You cannot expect to grow in the walk with God while you still have that dirty mat by the pool side. God says take everything but you are saying “I grew up like this / everyone at home is like this, we are known to be stubborn, He is saying if you are ready "get up, pick up your dirty mat and walk along the way He will prune you. Nothing is impossible with Him, He formed you in your Mother’s womb, He can change your character, do not think your generational strongholds He cannot handle,cause there is nothing impossible for Him to do. Move from your comfort zone and trust in His guidance.